The Obnoxious Disease At BYU

In the words of Princess Bride, "Marriage. Marriage is what brings us together today." Let me explain...

First and formost, I AM NOT ENGAGED. Gross. How could you think that of me!?!?!?! I wouldn't explain that in my BLOG (Although, I do really like looking at engagement pictures....not gonna lie!).
Second and secondmost, I am not even close to dating. Ha, again, funny!

So, my first year at BYU, I lived on campus in the dorms. In doing so, I was in a freshman ward which had girls my age and boys my age. The boys my age were all "pre-mi's" aka not yet 19 and had not yet served missions. It was a great year, full of fun shenanigans and crazy late nights. I had an AWESOME group of guy friends and I honestly wouldn't trade them for anything. But, because most of them were pre-missionaries, not a lot of steady dating happened, which honestly was fine by me. Sure, every girl dreams of finding their companion throughout life, but I was 17 last year. Way too young for all that commitment...


Well, now here I am, my second year. My roommates and I (mostly me) decided to stay at Liberty Square, aka the Sophomore Spot (we're not called that, I just made it up...). At this new location, there are girls my age (sophomore girls) and the boys here are fresh off their mission. Aka RM's (returned missionaries). Sure, RM's are great, future mates in the BYU/Mormon language. They are normally more mature, as they are at least 21 and have the tendency to be more spiritual, etc. Sounds like a dream right? Sure, they are dreamy and all but there's boys. Just the same as most boys all over. Just sayin'. It's nothing new...

Thanks Chandler, couldn't have said it better myself.

ANYWAY, it seems like the sophomore girls here are D-E-S-P-E-R-A-T-E. Like honestly. The other night, girls in the apartment next me screamed out, "JUST DATE ME. CALL ME UP, DATE ME, AND KISS ME LIKE THERE'S NO TOMORROW."

If that's not desperate, then I don't know what is.

At that same time, girls, the semester JUST STARTED. It is highly unlikely that you will find your mate for time and all eternity in the first two weeks of school. It's even more unlikely that you'll fall in love within the first two weeks of school, no matter who you are, what your circumstances are, or how you meet! (Yes, I know there are exceptions to the rule, I've seen "He's Just Not That Into You," trust me. I am the exception to most rules!) Heck, it's MORE unlikely that you will find that group of boys that you can even be friends with. C'mon. Last year, it took us till October to find our set group of guy friends. Give it timeeee!

Also, most of us are NINETEEN. Now, again, everyone learns and grows at their own pace, but heck, for me I'm not ready to make life changing decisions. I can't even decide what I'm going to wear in the mornings!!!! Maybe that's just me, but I feel like *most* 19 yr olds definitely aren't ready for that full commitment. Most of us get distracted by that feeling of "true love" and that idea of finding the perfect boy. No flaws are seen. Hey, uhmm...ladies...in case you haven't noticed, we're all human. Your perfect prince charming isn't out there. It's the truth. Sorry to break it to you!

I mean, I understand that in the Mormon community if you don't get married and you're out of college, it's like shame to your name. But still, it's gonna be okay. There's a scripture somewhere about a time and season to everything. It's true! Like girls, you need to CALM DOWN and not worry so much about boys! Frankly, it's obnoxious and I don't think the guys around here like pushy girls either! Actually I don't think boys anywhere like pushy girls (Boys, correct me if I'm wrong...).

We're SOPHOMORES IN COLLEGE. Date around, get to know other people and have fun! That's like my one wish for everyone I know right now. Don't desert your friends, even if they haven't served missions yet, because they are still great guys. Don't desert your roommates, just because you're obsessed with the new love of your life. Don't have all these little inside jokes because someone wasn't around when you met so-and-so. Don't become soooo obsessed with finding the one. We're young! We're suppose to make mistakes, learn what heartbreak is, and figure out what we actually want in a companion! Don't get blinded by the idea of your own Prince Charming. He's out there, but he's not as perfect as you want to believe. He's human and has flaws, just like you and me.

Just, be smart. Because there's this obnoxious disease in the water here at BYU and some girls are a little too boy crazy, marriage obsessed, and desperate for love.